Little man would not budge from his breeched position, so I had a planned c-section. Having a planned date was nice, but I do often wonder what it would have been like to have him naturally (by which I mean a vaginal delivery, not without drugs, haha). It also gave me a lot more time to worry! I am a very anxious person, so I started to worry as soon as I knew the date.
If you are having a planned c-section, your doctor will give you a list of things to be done before going to the hospital. One of the items is to shower with a special body wash to help sterilize your body. Another is to not have anything to eat or drink for so many hours before hand, but if you’re like me, this won’t be a problem because you will be too nervous to eat! Then you have the choice (or at least I had the choice) to use an enema. I did choose to use one, but I honestly have no idea what went on behind the curtain during the procedure, and I don’t care to!
On the day of the procedure, the nurses will check you in and get you ready. My doctor completed an ultrasound right before the procedure to double check that my little man had not flipped from his breeched position. Your doctor may do this as well.
Once I had the all clear, I was taken into surgery. If you have someone with you, they will have to put on a suit, covering their clothes, and will be told to wait outside the room until you are ready.
Inside the room, I sat and waited for the anesthesiologist to give me a spinal block. I was really worried about this part, especially because my husband was not allowed in the room yet. It did take a little longer than it should have because the anesthesiologist was having trouble with the needle and had to switch to a smaller one. The nurse was really great during this part; making sure I was okay. I will say that it was uncomfortable, but it was nothing compared to what I was expecting and had built up in my mind! It was only a small pinch.
After the anesthesiologist finished, the nurse helped me lay on my back, and then put inflatable boots on my legs/feet. These boots are meant to reduce the risk of blood clots. Once they were on, I had to put my arms straight out. Not sure why they do this, but I had to stay that way through the surgery. Then they put up the curtain, and gave me some blankets to keep me warm. I was also given a catheter at some point, but it must have happened after the curtain was put up.
The last thing they did before letting my husband come in was check to make sure the spinal block was working. The doctor would pause and then ask me if I could feel anything. She did this a few times. I said I didn’t feel anything, to which she replied, “okay good, because we were pinching you with pliers!” So it’s a good thing I didn’t feel anything, haha! After that, they finally let my husband come in!
He was by my head until little man arrived. We couldn’t see anything, but our doctor told us that he not only peed, but he kicked her twice! Sounds about right! Then once he was out, they lifted him over the curtain for us to see, and my husband was allowed over when they weighed him. Once little man was all wrapped up, my husband brought him over to me! He was perfect!
Now, this last part is a little blurry because I was so overwhelmed that little man was finally here, so I had to ask my husband to help me recount the details. Hubby and little man stayed by my side the whole time that I was being put back together! Then they removed the curtain and moved me onto a bed. Little man was given to me as soon as I was situated on the bed. I still had no feeling from the waist down. It didn’t take that long for it to come back though. I was wheeled back to my room, and we were able to spend some alone time with little man. During this time, the catheter stayed in and the inflatable boots stayed on. Both of these were taken off/out later that day. I have talked to some women that really hated the booted, but I personally loved them. I liked the pressure!
After having a c-section, most hospitals will want you to stay three nights. Throughout this time the nurses will check on you and the baby. Three questions you will hear over and over are: “Are you passing gas?” Are you getting up and moving?” “Have you had a bowel movement?” Just like delivering naturally, you will still bleed and you will still have trouble with your first bowel movement. The gas question is to make sure everything is working right inside, after all, you were just cut open! And that getting up and moving question, very important! You should get up and move not long after you get feeling back in your legs. Believe me, it is the very last thing you are going to want to do! But just try walking to the bathroom and back. I’m not sure what everyone else’s pain felt like, but mine felt like my stomach was on fire! It was an indescribable, burning pain! It lessened a little bit every day, but I didn’t start to feel comfortable until about day 5 or 6, and it took about 2 weeks to feel back to myself. Although, I am still having issues with tenderness, and I am 6 months postpartum. Everything was checked, and as far as they can tell, I healed perfectly. I have issues with PCOS, so it could be related to that, but just know that some feelings (numbness, tenderness, itchiness – told to me by other moms) may never completely go away!
Now on to recovery. Most hospitals will give you a belly wrap to wear. I personally didn’t like the way it felt, so I never wore it. Many moms love it, and swear it helps to lose the baby weight. It’s definitely worth trying! Hopefully, you’re pain won’t be too bad, and you will be able to move around by the time you get home. The only thing I wasn’t able to do once I was home was climb into bed. Our bed is really high, but luckily we have a guest bed, and I was able to sleep in that. Remember, the more you move, the easier it will get! Try to avoid stairs, but I realize that this isn’t realistic for everyone! Also, definitely avoid lifting anything heavier than your baby. I know this rule is really hard when you have other little ones, but try not to. You don’t want your multi-layered incision opening!!! Take all of your medication when you are supposed to, plus take stool softeners! It’s not fun to talk about, but trust me, you want to do everything you can to make things go as smooth as possible. Drink prune juice, coffee, tea, anything to help things along! Your doctor will likely tell you most of this, but one last thing they likely won’t mention, is to let others help! If someone is offering to do something for you, let them! I am very particular about things, but after little man was born I took all the help I could get! It’s not going to be good for anyone if you don’t take the time to let your body heal!
One final note. I’ve have talked to several moms that have had c-sections and they have told me that they feel inadequate or regretful because they didn’t/were unable to deliver their baby naturally. To them, and to you, I say this: wear your scar proudly! We fought our own battle! It may not have been the intended way, but who cares! Our babies are here, and that’s all that matters!